Παρασκευή 29 Ιουνίου 2018

The Orthodox Home Creating an Orthodox Christian environment in the home


Creating an Orthodox Christian home begins with the icon corner. The "bright corner" becomes the center for every domestic church, where the family devotions take place. Each member of the family should have their own patron saint's icon, and a wonderful practice from ancient times is to have a family icon written so that all their patron saints are represented in the same icon. This is also the family's way of declaring to visitors that this is a Christian home with Christ as it's head.

The family should try as best they can to have dinner together every night of the week. Watching TV while eating dinner is a very bad idea, for the meal should be the time when the parents can talk to their children about school, or other activities. In these modern times there are almost always school or work related activities that don't always allow everyone to be together for that all important family meal, but every effort should be made to make this happen as often as possible.

The blessing of the meal, with the father or mother making the sign of the cross over the meal with their fingers together as done when blessing oneself, should never be avoided. If we always say a blessing over our food at home, we are more likely to do so when at school or in a restaurant.

Television, and the overuse of the Internet, wreak havoc on family life, and as such, have become foreign invaders in our homes, having replaced Christ as head of our household. Bad habits are hard to overcome, so replacing these with communal time in the living room may be difficult at first, but this is necessary as the basic foundation of any Orthodox Christian home.

We must guard our home from other invaders as well. Magazines and other reading material should be in sync with our Christian values. If we'd rather our priest not see a magazine or certain book in our home, it shouldn't be there in the first place. As well, the music played should be uplifting, devoid of profanity and vulgarity.

Regular family meetings where everyone has an opportunity to share  about things, and where the atmosphere is loving, open and safe, help create trust and a sense of security for everyone. Although it is natural for parents to argue on occasion, this should never take place in front of the children, for they need to feel safe and secure in the home.

Boys need to see their fathers as icons of Christ, always demonstrating the biblical image of a husband and father. Men need, for the sake of their children, to give witness to the importance of prayer and church attendance. Statistically, children, whose father is a church goer, are far more likely to remain in the faith as adults. Because the husband is a sort of domestic priest (the priesthood of all believers), it is important that he be the one who leads the entire family in prayer. Men should not leave spiritual instruction up to their wives, but should remember they will ultimately be held accountable before the Lord, come judgement day.

Men should not let their wives do all the house cleaning and cooking. In an age where both husband and wife often need to hold down jobs in order to make ends meet, a woman's work is not just household work. She should not have to come home from work and be expected to do all the housework and cooking by herself. Men need to teach their children by example to help around the house.

Children should be given a small allowance (according to age) so they can learn to manage money, and an important part of money managing is the tithe. The biblical command to give ten percent of one's income back to God is almost never practiced in the Orthodox Church, which is why so many clergy are given such meager salaries, and parishes have to hold festivals and bazaars in order to keep the temple open. When we fail to tithe we are stealing from God, and the child who tithes ten percent of his allowance will grow into an adult Orthodox Christian who tithes.

These are basic suggestions for creating an Orthodox home. If you begin to implement these suggestions, the Lord will reward you with a family that stands strong and your children will grow up as spiritually healthy Christians, grounded in biblical teachings and moral fortitude. Your grandchildren will, in return, be raised with the same biblical principles and you will be the most blessed grandparents on your block!

With love in Christ,
Abbot Tryphon

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