St.
Porphyrios of Kavsokalyvia
"The truth of Christ stresses that, if
you praise a person, you make him an egotist. The egotist is burdened, and is
guided by the devil and the evil spirit. Thus, growing up in the midst of
egotism, the first act is to deny God and to be an egotistical misfit in
society..."
"When,
therefore, we praise the child we create this 'super-ego', we choke him with
egotism, and we cause a great evil. We make him more susceptible to diabolic
things..."
"In
all things, we should teach children to seek the help of God...To the child you
shouldn't say: 'You did it, you are the most impressive, you are young, you are
brave, you are perfect!...' The child is not helped by this. You can, however, tell
him to pray. Tell him: 'My child, the gifts that you have, God gave to you.
Pray that God gives you His grace.' This is the perfect [way]..."
"You
should tell the truth, so that the person can learn. Otherwise, you support
them in their ignorance. When you tell someone else the truth, this instructs
them, he pays attention, and when he hears it from others, it is strengthened.
Thus, you should tell the child the truth, you should scold him, saying that
that which you are doing is not good. What does the wise Solomon say? 'He who
spares the rod, hates his son, but he who loves him will carefully chasten
him.' However, you are not to flog him with the stick. Then we go outside the
boundaries and the opposite occurs..."
"Parents
are responsible first for the failures of children in life, and teachers
afterwards. They praise them constantly. They speak to them with egotistical
words. They don't offer the Spirit of God, they estrange them from the Church.
When the children get a little older and go to school with this egotism, they
flee from religion and despise it, loosing their reverence towards God, towards
their parents, towards everyone. They become untamed and harsh and apathetical,
without honoring religion nor God. We release egotists into life and not
Christians..."
"The
devil has managed to remove himself from people [directly]. and to use other
names. Doctors and psychologists say continuously that a person is suffering:
'Ah, you have neuroses! Ahh, you have anxiety!', and the like. They don't
accept that the devil stimulates and excites egotism within man. And where
there is the devil, there is the evil spirit...The first people, Adam and Eve,
were simple and humble, and because of this they lived in Paradise. They did
not have egotism...After...the devil managed to praise them and delude them. He
filled them with egotism..."
"Praise
makes man deaf and drives out the grace of God..."
"The
grace of God comes only with holy humility..."
"We
must teach children to live humbly and simply, and to not seek praise and a 'bravo'.
We should teach them that humility exists, which is the health of life..."
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